Navigating Rejection: Ghosting a Girl Who Friendzoned You
If you’ve ever been friend-zoned, you know the confusion of wondering whether to continue the friendship or just move on.
I’ve noticed this issue repeatedly with clients of my online dating services, so I put this article together to serve as a guide (and maybe offer a little emotional support). Should you consider ghosting a girl who has friendzoned you? Keep reading to learn what to do after being friendzoned.
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What to Do When a Girl Friendzones Me? Should I Keep Trying?
If you’re in the friend zone, it’s possible to escape and move towards a relationship, but the truth is that there’s no way to know whether you can ever get out of the friendzone. However, by continuing a friendship, you at least give yourself the chance to build a healthy, solid friendship and potentially a romantic relationship.
My best advice is to try and get rid of any anger or frustration they feel towards the person that friend-zoned them, and instead work on finding other options. Get back on the apps, work on your dating profile and openers, and get ready to find a new person who’s interested in you as more than just a great friend.
Find out if friendzoning a guy makes him want you more.
Why Was I Friendzoned by a Girl?
Being friend-zoned by a girl can happen for several different reasons. Though knowing why you were friendzoned won’t change the situation, it might be helpful so you can avoid it in the future. Check out the most common reasons guys get friendzoned by girls:
1. She’s Interested in Someone Else
When a girl friend-zones you for another person, it hurts just as much as it would if you didn’t know the reason behind it. However, just because she’s interested in someone else doesn’t mean that you aren’t a catch.
In these situations, the best thing to do is give yourself some space. It hurts to watch someone you like fawn over someone else, so give yourself the space to get over her rejection and move on. After all, you are not some consolation prize! You are a pretty lovable dude and a nice guy; you just have to find the right girl.
If you play it cool like the guy in the conversation above, there’s a better chance she’ll be interested in you if that relationship doesn’t work out. Send back a casual text message like, “Thanks for telling me! I’m happy to stay friends if you want!”
2. You Weren’t Presenting Yourself as an Attractive Option to Her
You may think that you were giving her the impression you’d be a good partner, but that might not be true. Chemistry is crucial for attraction, and if she wasn’t feeling it on that first date, she’s much more likely to friend-zone you.
But don’t give up hope – that can always change if you put effort into yourself and improve your flirting techniques. Don’t focus so much on attracting her – instead, concentrate on feeling attractive in general, and the rest will follow. Improve your self-esteem, and you will quickly find there is no such thing as the friend zone (with the right girl, that is) anymore for you!
Focusing on yourself and getting dates with other people is the right direction to go. It may even help her realize she’s interested in you as more than a friend – as in the text conversation above.
3. She Didn’t Feel a Spark
If you went on a few dates with her before being friend-zoned, you’re probably wondering what changed. You might be noticing dry conversations between you two or even some soft ghosting, where she likes your message but doesn’t respond.
When a girl doesn’t immediately feel sparks, she might think you’re better off as a guy friend rather than a romantic interest. To prevent that, make sure you’re on your game in terms of conversation starters and prompts, engaging discussions, compliments, and flirting. You’ll need to show her that you’re an exciting, interesting guy she shouldn’t give up on just yet.
If you’ve received a friendzone text like this after a date, you can stay friends or stop chatting, but you should get on the apps and rebuild your profile to get more dates. A text like this tells you she likely won’t change her mind, and that’s probably for the best for you – you want someone who’s all in, not just pals.
Navigating the Friend Zone: When She Wants to Hang Out After Rejecting You
It’s always possible for a girl to change her mind after rejecting a guy. There are a few things you can do to help her change her mind, but it’s important to remember that “No” means “No.” In other words, if she is sure that she doesn’t want more than a platonic friendship, you can’t change her mind – all you can do is present yourself as an attractive option and let her make a move. So, when you’re asking yourself the question, “What do I do if I get friend-zoned by a girl?” here are a few suggestions:
Tell Her How You Feel
Girls, like guys, appreciate honesty more than anything, and sometimes it can even bring you out of the friendzone. A simple text or statement like this will let her know how you feel:
- I know you see us as just friends, so I want you to know that I will never do anything to jeopardize our friendship. That said, know that I’m here if the timing is ever right for us.
When you share your feelings, it might end up like the conversation above, where she rejects you again. But, at least she now knows how you feel, which may help if she changes her mind in the future.
Show That You’re a Catch
The best way to help someone realize you’re more than a friend is to focus on self-improvement like working out, reading more, or spending time with friends. Work on feeling good and looking good so you can prove to her that you’re a viable option for a relationship.
Don’t Spend Too Much Time on Her
Depending on your friendship level, you might feel inclined to continue hanging out with her or texting her every day. Instead, give her space to miss you. You might even consider dating around. When she realizes she’s not your only option, she can start to question her decision.
What to Do After Being Friendzoned By a Girl?
When answering the question of what to do when a girl friend-zones you, you need to be honest. It can be emotionally challenging, but it’s crucial to handle the situation with grace and resilience. When faced with the “just friends” revelation, your response matters. Firstly, acknowledge your emotions without letting frustration or resentment take the lead. It’s natural to feel disappointed, but dwelling on negative feelings won’t change the situation.
However, it’s vitally important to know how to respond when a girl friendzones you. Rather than fixating on the notion of being “friend-zoned,” shift your focus to personal growth. Embrace the preference she’s expressed and recognize that, at this moment, she sees your connection as a friendship. Use this as an opportunity to strengthen the existing bond and build a solid foundation. Friendship is not a consolation prize; it’s a valuable connection that can be the basis for something more.
Avoid viewing the situation as a closed door to romance. Instead, work on improving yourself and enhancing your rapport. Consider the body language and signals she has given – does she enjoy spending time with you? Is there laughter and camaraderie? These are positive signs that should be acknowledged.
If it hurts too much or if you’re feeling awkward, it’s completely fine to take some time for yourself and reevaluate the relationship. It’s essential to maintain the friendship without dwelling on a secret crush. Continue enjoying fun things together, be it inside jokes, shared interests, or even casual outings. While pursuing a romance may not be an immediate option, keep the atmosphere light and enjoyable. Second dates may not be on the horizon now, but building a strong foundation could lead to a deeper connection in the future.
Remember, it’s okay and understandable to end the relationship and spend time working on yourself. If the other person truly cares about you, they would understand and empathize with your point of view, rather than trying to guilt-trip you. Seek closure on any lingering expectations of a romantic relationship and appreciate the bond you share as best friends. A healthy friendship is a valuable connection that can withstand time. Avoid the pitfalls of letting emotions cloud the camaraderie – thumbs up for genuine friendship and shared experiences. Embrace the present, enjoy the connection you have, and who knows what the future may hold? After all, turning a page doesn’t mean the story is over; it’s just taking a different, perhaps unexpected, turn.
Discover the common reasons why guys choose to friend-zone a girl.
Should I Cut Off a Girl Who Friendzoned Me?: Ghosting a Girl Who Friendzoned You
When you get friend-zoned, ghosting might feel good. It gives you back the power, leaving her questioning what happened. That said, ghosting may not always give you the result you’re looking for and might bring a little toxicity to the situation.
If you decide to ghost a girl that friend zones you, you’re cutting off the chance for her to ever change her mind. Because of that, I don’t usually recommend ghosting. However, there are a few situations in which ghosting is the right move:
- She was rude, mean, or unkind when she put you in the friendzone.
- She’s dating someone else who hates you.
- It hurts you to stay friends with her.
She may react poorly to being ghosted, as seen in the conversation above. But always take care of yourself first (your mental health and self-respect matter too!). Just remember that it’s hard to rebuild a friendship after ghosting, so only do it if you don’t ever see a future with her.
Therefore, when deciding to ghost someone, be certain about your feelings. Generally, it’s much better to be honest and clear with your feelings and let the other person know how you feel when deciding to end the relationship. This reduces the chances of confusion and misunderstandings.
Cutting off Contact With a Girl You Like
Like ghosting, cutting a girl off is sometimes the only option. If you’ve been rejected and are experiencing any of the situations mentioned above, it might be the healthiest move to stop texting her.
Consider sending a text message with something like:
- I appreciate all the good times we’ve had, but the way you’ve treated me recently isn’t fair to me. I wish you the best.
- I can’t stay friends with someone I’m interested in who has a partner who hates me. Stay well. I hope things work out for you.
- I want to keep flirting with you, but I know that’s not appropriate knowing that you’re not interested, and I think we could both use some space.
She might not react well, like the girl in the conversation above, but you can explain yourself calmly as he did, showing a level of mutual respect that will keep you from more serious confrontations. She’ll question your decision, but if you know it’s the right decision for you, that’s all that matters.
Final Thoughts
Dating is tough, and being friend-zoned can be disheartening. If you’re feeling stuck and asking yourself, ‘Why do I keep getting friend-zoned?’ I’m here to help.
I offer online dating services, including dating profile writing and dating app texting feedback, to assist you in getting more matches, replies, and dates. You don’t have to navigate online dating alone.