I Friendzoned Him, Now I Miss Him

I Friendzoned Him and He Stopped Talking To Me: Get Him Back

I hear it all the time: I friendzoned him, and he stopped talking to me – what should I do? Uh-oh! You realized you made a mistake in friendzoning a guy, and now he’s moved on. Now you miss him and want him back. Is there still a chance to get him back, or have you blown it with him?

Today, I’m taking you through the answers to this dilemma and ways to move that friendzoned relationship to be more than just pals.

I Friendzoned Him, But Now I Miss Him: Rekindling the Connection

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Okay, don’t panic!! If you friendzoned or rejected him but now you miss him, you can get him back and rebuild the relationship after a brief period of no contact by giving him a chance to heal from the rejection before you move on.

First, you need to understand that you rejected him, and he may not want to engage in conversation with you initially for a variety of reasons. The best approach in this situation is to have a game-plan and casually start conversations without seeming clingy or desperate. Sending him a text asking, ‘How are you doing?’ or even ‘Happy Birthday!’ can be a great conversation starter. Keep it light and consider suggesting an idea for a future together. You can even send him an honest text like the one below:

I Friendzoned Him But Now I Miss Him

He may appreciate your honesty and see that you’re in it for real this time. It’s important to clarify to him that you’re interested and try to move forward like that.

Then, in two or three weeks, extend an invitation for a group activity. Keep in mind that he may be focused on his own goals, so one “Sorry, I can’t” is not the end of the world. You know he likes you, and he has had his heart broken. Message him more often, but don’t swamp him with texts. This can be a real turn-off.

Just kinda gently nudge him in the right direction. Bear in mind this is not like instant coffee, where you can just add water. It’s a process, as the long slow perk of robust, flavorful coffee. Think up to 3 months of the long slow dance.

Regaining His Heart: Winning Over the Friendzoned Guy

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So, you have sent the first text to your ex, and the response is positive. Find out his interests casually and make plans to meet him for that Yankees game he wants to see or that expo he likes. Inviting him on a coffee date is a great casual icebreaker to help you get out of that limbo you’ve put yourself in.

Discuss books – ask him who his favorite author or genre is. For movies, has he seen the latest Bond film yet? Does he prefer the Boston Red Sox or the New York Yankees? See if you have mutual interests. If the response is favorable, plan an outing or activity, something you would both enjoy. Just start slowly to break the ice, maybe with some sincere compliments, and gently woo him (small gifts might also be nice). Feeling relaxed and casual but attentive are good signs you are moving forward and common mistakes to avoid

If you are looking for more conversation ideas, be sure to check out my post on the best Hinge conversation starters. It will help you prevent a dry conversation and show you what to say after sending that first conversation starter.

I Friendzoned Him But Now I Want Him

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At first, you may both be nervous. This is completely normal. Activities with another couple or group of friends are a great way to start dating. Progress from there to dinner dates, movie dates, and exploring parks together. The goal of this journey, which will have you dismantling that friend zone barrier you mistakenly put up, is to agree on things that work well for both of you, including common interests. If you have a special or rare interest, keep that in reserve for the future.

Three months to transition from the friend zone to something more with someone is not a very long time. Many relationships are born out of platonic friendships, and let’s face it, if things work out, this is the person you are going to talk to more than anyone else you know. Take this, for example:

Text conversation where the man and woman confess that they have feelings born from their friendship.

If he is the right person for you, he will stand by you in the long run. The initial rejection won’t be enough for him to forget everything you two have been through. When you have a strong friendship, a romantic relationship can build naturally and may even become a sexual relationship as well.

I Shouldn’t Have Rejected Him: Strategies for Rebuilding the Relationship

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If you’re beating yourself up over rejecting him and truly regret friendzoning him, try to focus more on finding signs of positive change in your friendship. This may give you the motivation to keep working on it to build a romantic relationship. A good sign of change could be harmless flirting with each other within your group of friends.

It is never too soon to compliment your potential boyfriend and mention what you admire about him, whether it’s a personal strength or a situation he handled well. Letting a person know what you like stirs attraction and doesn’t cost you anything.

You’ll eventually start giving each other pet names, even better compliments, or little gifts, like coffee mugs or matching tee-shirts with your pet names emblazoned on them.

In addition to the insights provided, you should also look at your other options and consider a dating app, like Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble.

Here are some easy tips to make your Hinge profile stand out. 

Oops, I Accidentally Friendzoned a Guy – What Now?

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It may seem hopeless if you accidentally friend-zoned him and regret it, but it is possible to transition from a male friend to a partner in this kind of relationship.

For example, a couple has been friends for a few years, or maybe even longer, such as high school or childhood friends. They discover they like each other, and they date and eventually marry. This is typical of many friend-to-romantic relationships. However, both of you must understand the deeper feelings that are developing between you and discuss them openly.

Avoid any secret dancing around or choices that leave the other person guessing. If you want this person in your life, let them in from the get-go. Do you text each other constantly? Dress to please each other? Make excuses to be alone together? Are you gazing into each other’s eyes and finding yourself touching each other in different ways? These are all great signs of flirting that can transition your relationship into something real. It’s vital to watch your body language, not just eye contact when you are trying to decide whether it’s time to flirt more or not!

Take a look at the conversation below. The first person prompts their partner to open up about how they feel, and the response is flirty, kind, and lovely. It’s a great example of how to re-express your interest to the guy you once rejected.

Text message where one friend tells the other that they can't imagine life without them.

Dealing with Silence: I Friendzoned Him and He Stopped Talking to Me

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It can be a bit of a guessing game to wonder what he’s thinking, especially if he ghosted or blocked you after you rejected him. If you friendzoned him and he walked away, it might be time to shift to finding another match on a dating site like OkCupid, Bumble, or Tinder. After all, continuing to contact him after he has moved on can seem desperate and be quite annoying. The last thing any guy wants to be seen as is weak, needy, or as a beta male.

But, if you regret friend-zoning him and manage to get him to communicate with you again, you can start with a simple coffee date or a walk in the park.

When the date wraps up, let him know you had a great time, and you would like to do it again sometime. Texting shows you valued his time and enjoyed his company.

Ladies if he texts you first, make sure you respond that same day. Don’t keep him hanging. Not responding sends the signal you are not interested and have bad texting etiquette.

If he’s willing to have a second date with you and try again, give him two or three days to make plans before he texts you. He will want to know if you would enjoy the planned date. You can ask something like the person in this conversation:

Text messages where woman asks man on a date for the weekend over a shared interest and he agrees enthusiastically.

Explain how you want to keep seeing him and make a few inside jokes, then ask him for another date.

I Friendzoned Him, and He Moved On: What To Do When You Regret Friendzoning Him

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So, if you find yourself saying you miss the guy you rejected, but he’s moved on, what do you do? In this situation, it’s probably best to use your emotional intelligence to navigate it delicately. Perhaps even considering the no-contact rule could be something to explore.

Strategies for Rekindling the Connection

  • Give him his space and resist the urge to reach out.
  • Use this time to reflect on your feelings and what you truly want.
  • Seek closure by openly communicating with him about your regrets.
  • Look into tips and tricks to step out of your comfort zone and make sure to give yourself the special treatment you deserve when it comes to determining your motivations and seeking what you want.

Perhaps even seeking a little closure may be your next crucial step. Try to openly communicate with him and be honest about your regrets about friend-zoning him. It’s important to respect yourself and start to create new boundaries. Realizing that true love is possible, but it may require you to follow your gut, is a good place to start.

Moving Forward: Creating New Opportunities

This realization may bring you to the best place possible when it comes to your emotional and mental health and may end up yielding quite different results than the last time you stepped out and tried to find that new handsome man. We suggest you motivate yourself to grow, and tomorrow, or maybe in a couple of months, you may find new opportunities available to connect with another lovely person. If you’ve reached this point in the relationship and want more helpful tips on handling a breakup, I can assist you with that as well.


Discussions have touched on moving relationships in a positive direction, including breaking the ice after being friend-zoned without seeming threatening, clingy, or pushy about it. You’ve learned how to transition a man out of the friend-zone and firmly into the significant-other-zone.

You’ve also learned how to navigate the transition from the friend-zone to the partner zone, understanding that leaving someone hanging after a date is not conducive to moving the relationship forward.

Let me leave you with a few personal questions. Do you want to know more? Do you want to discover how to put your best foot forward for a great relationship? Do you want to know what to say and how to say it?

Learn how to craft the right text response, include a conversation starter, and express your interest casually with my dating app texting feedback. I’ll teach you my highly recommended tips and how to use them to maximize your online dating success on Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, OkCupid, and more. I can even help you build the perfect online dating profile so you can get the most compatible matches anytime you head to an app.

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  1. The moment a woman friend zones me, that’s it. No second chances. Because even if I forgive her she will still friendzone me in the future.

    Ladies must learn how to think before making a decision of breaking a man’s heart. Men also have emotions.

    1. Thanks for the feedback! Yes, both men and women need to respect and value each other before making a decision that can affect the relationship.