Online dating sites come and go, and only a few can stand the test of time. Tinder will always be the popular choice for online dating newcomers, but it is essential to remember that your options do not stop there.
Case in point: Coffee Meets Bagel. Although it is well past its peak popularity, the site is still an excellent choice for those looking for something with a little more depth than the likes of Tinder.
Coffee Meets Bagel (CMB) was established way back in 2012, with the express intent of giving female users more agency than other dating apps. Naturally, this made it instantly popular with women all over the world. Since then, however, the novelty seems to have worn off.
More and more dating sites have taken a proactive stance regarding empowering female users. Bumble is another excellent example of such a dating app. This has led to CMB losing some of its user base to more famous sites over time. However, it is still an excellent place for women to feel like they are in control and for people who want a truly meaningful relationship, not just a one-night stand.
Currently, Coffee Meets Bagel has over 10 million active users, which is a far cry from Tinder’s 70 million. Still, just because it is not as widely used as it once was, this does not mean that it is dead.
If you have been on the fence about joining Coffee Meets Bagel, there is no better time to sign up than right now. New profiles on CMB receive a massive boost, which displays them to more users, and thus increases their chances of finding a match. Signing up is also completely free, and does not require a paid subscription like eHarmony and Match. Be sure to capitalize on this process as soon as you can.
2022 marks the tenth anniversary of CMB. The app has seen plenty of highs and lows in its time, but things seem to have settled down considerably, meaning this is the perfect time to sign up and get a feel for how the app works.
More than 50% of Coffee Meets Bagel’s user base are female, which is fantastic news if you are a guy looking for a woman. Additionally, the app has strongly advised users to get vaccinated and has added a new prompt card for profiles to display their vaccination status. This means that you can go on dates knowing that your date has taken all the necessary measures to ensure their safety – and yours.
Finally, CMB has a respectable 10 million active users. While this is a far cry from the 70 million users you can find on Tinder, the number is significant enough that you will have new profiles to look through almost every day. You should sign up for at least two other dating apps as well, however, in order to find one that suits you best. Tinder and Bumble are great places to start.
Coffee Meets Bagel’s main selling point is its emphasis on empowering female users. This means that women ultimately have the final say in whether or not it is a match. This may put off plenty of male users, but the system works out quite well and guarantees that you will always go out with like-minded people looking for the same things as you.
Still, being a guy on Coffee Meets Bagel comes with a few challenges. You will have to pay more attention to your profile and the manner in which you conduct yourself to be successful. To make things easier, have someone you trust to review your profile to ensure its quality. Some things will work and other things will not – always be willing to experiment in order to find the things that do.
Finally, the best piece of advice for guys on Coffee Meets Bagel (and pretty much every other dating app) is to not take things too personally. Some people may not like you, and it is important that you are able to pick yourself up and move on quickly.
Although they share similar interfaces and mechanics, CMB is a wholly different beast compared to Tinder. This is mainly because users are far more limited in their options – (they can only view 21 new profiles per day) – and have to make the absolute best with what they are given if they have any hope of finding a date.
Luckily, new users can quickly improve their chances of finding a match as long as they start on the right foot.
Fortunately, this process is not as complicated as it might seem. You just need to be comprehensive to ensure the best results.
Start with your bio. CMB provides several different fields for you to input your personal information, so be sure to use all of them. You can also include prompts on your profile, questions for you to answer that give other users a much more complete impression of who you are and what you are like. Each prompt permits around 280 characters worth of text, which should be plenty enough.
Be sure to fill out each prompt in a way that is uniquely “you,” and include such things as your guilty pleasures, pet peeves, hobbies, and goals, among others. However, the most important thing that you need to include in your bio is the type of person that you are looking for. This will attract people who will be more to your taste, and increase your chances of finding compatible matches.
You will also need to pay attention to the photos you choose to display. Avoid selfies and group pictures at all costs. Use photos that feature natural lighting, and be sure to smile as much as possible.
Try to get your friends to take photos of you doing things that you love, whatever they may be. If you enjoy hiking, get some hiking pictures, for example.
Here are two great examples of photos:
Coffee Meets Bagel demands a different approach when it comes to conversations. Small talk will not get you anywhere – every CMB user is looking for something more profound.
To this end, you need to know how you start conversations. There are several well-established “rules” for you to follow. It also helps to come equipped with a handful of openers and icebreakers to ease some of the initial tension of talking to someone new.
In general, you should endeavor to get to know your matches as well as possible, without overstepping any boundaries. For example, it is okay to discuss your passions with one another, but you should not divulge any of your deepest, darkest secrets.
Here are some tips and examples to get you started:
- Ask them about a specific aspect of their bio or profile, e.g.: “Wow, you like (X band)? I love them!”
- Compliment something about them, but not their body, e.g.: “Your hair is lovely.”
- Tell an inoffensive, corny joke, e.g.: “Hey, my name’s Microsoft, can I crash at your place tonight?”
Here are a couple of good examples of people engaging their matches:
Far too often, people make the mistake of never letting conversations continue off of the phone. The point of Coffee Meets Bagel – and all dating sites – is to get a date. To this end, you should not spend more than three days speaking to someone over the phone before asking them out.
Fortunately, there is a method to ask people out that you can internalize and use. You first need to make sure that you have properly established a rapport with your match. Once conversations can move along at an easy pace without any tension, suggest a few places that might be fun to visit together. Coffee shops are – naturally – one of the best places to have a first date. Avoid dinners and movies, however, as these activities will put a dent in your wallet, and do not present enough time to get to know your match.
Like all social networking sites, CMB is unfortunately not immune to the presence of bots and scammers, which can quickly ruin your time on the app.
Fortunately, while these pests will never completely disappear, they can be dealt with. The best way to handle a bot or a scammer is to report their profile and block them, which will prevent them from contacting you.
Likes on CMB represent the interest other users show for your profile. If you are not receiving any likes, it is likely because your profile has not been adequately optimized. Go back to the drawing board and make sure that every field is filled out, and that you have a diverse selection of high-quality photos that give potential matches a complete impression of your life.
Alternatively, it is also possible that there simply are not that many users in your area, which can significantly limit your prospects. If this is the case, extend the search radius, and you should start to see new profiles. Extend it by 10 miles at a time, refreshing to make sure that new profiles are popping up. If by 50 miles you still have not found any new profiles, it may simply be that everyone else is too far away for you right now.
Coffee Meets Bagel is far from dead. While your experience may be better or worse than other dating sites depending on where you live, the app’s infrastructure is as solid as ever. It is still a fantastic way of getting to know like-minded individuals who want a serious relationship.
If you need any help setting up your profile, feel free to use our profile writing services, whether you are male or female. We also vet text messages to ensure that your conversation game is up to scratch.