Like all online dating platforms, Coffee Meets Bagel functions as a means through which people – who may otherwise have never met one another – can connect, develop a relationship, and – possibly – find love.
Of course, the only way to find a date is to ensure that your profile is seen and liked by as many people as possible. Failing that, it is not likely that you will find a date on CMB anytime soon.
Fortunately, with the help of this guide before you, you can begin to understand why you are not getting likes – and what you can do to remedy that fact.
There is a multitude of possible reasons as to why people are not liking your profile. In general, a lack of profile optimization (i.e. a poor selection of photos and a poorly written bio) will repulse other users. A few things you can do are to choose a variety of quality photos (avoid selfies) and write an engaging bio. Your profile should let others know who you are, your interests, and what you’re looking for in a partner. We will go into more depth later on in this post.
Coffee Meets Bagel functions very similarly to other online dating apps. Users create their profiles and are prompted to start connecting with others via a swiping system a la Tinder: a right swipe indicates interest, and a left swipe is a pass.
Right swipes also double as likes. When two users like each other’s profiles (by swiping right), they match and are free to start chatting to each other.
Naturally, getting as many likes (or right swipes) as you can improve your chances of matching with someone. Once you have matched with someone, you are free to engage in conversation with them; however, CMB also allows a one-time message to be sent when you like a profile.
Like every other dating site on the Internet, CMB offers a premium subscription which can significantly reduce some of the difficulties that come with online dating by introducing a number of exclusive features. One such feature is the ability to see who has already liked your profile, which can eliminate some of the doubts you may experience when swiping through profiles.
This feature also allows you to select any profile in your “Who Likes You” tab and instantly match with them. Needless to say, this greatly reduces the time it takes for you to start chatting with someone and get a date, which has been the cause of many users’ frustration.
The premium subscription includes several other helpful features such as read receipts and a monthly allowance of beans (the in-app currency, used for a variety of different functions).
For those who cannot afford the premium subscription or those who simply do not want to pay over $30 a month for a dating app, free accounts can still view how many likes they have received. The profiles in the likes tab will be grayed out, but the total number of likes will be clear as day.
All apps are prone to a variety of bugs and technical issues, and Coffee Meets Bagel is no different. Fortunately, the app’s development team has managed to iron out almost all of the major bugs, but a few smaller ones remain.
You may not be able to see the profiles of the people who have liked you, even after signing up for a premium account. The exact cause of this glitch is indeterminate, but you should be able to get around it.
To start, log out of your CMB profile, then log back in. This fix should work for a variety of account errors, such as not being able to access premium features.
Alternatively, if you have been using your phone, log into your Coffee Meets Bagel account on your PC and see if the likes appear.
Finally, if logging out then back in has not worked for you, check for updates on your device’s app store. If it is fully updated, uninstall the app, reinstall it, log back in, and enable all of your premium features.
Your success on an app like Coffee Meets Bagel directly correlates with the number of likes you receive (or rather, the people you connect with). Therefore, a lack of likes is equivalent to failure.
There are a few possible reasons why you may not be receiving as many likes as you think you should. The first (and arguably the most prevalent) is a lack of profile optimization.
Simply put, having a shoddy, bare-bones profile is a surefire way of repulsing would-be admirers. Your profile should be comprehensive and offer other users a complete surface-level idea of who you are, what you do, and what you want.
Interestingly enough, people also do not appreciate cheaters.
Of course, you can overdo it on the other end of the spectrum as well. While people should have a pretty good idea of who you are and what you are about, they should not be privy to your deepest desires and darkest secrets.
Your selection of photos also plays a crucial role in appealing to other users. Too often, new users on Coffee Meets Bagel plaster their profile with selfies and topless pictures, both of which are far less appealing than most people realize. A lack of variety in photos is sure to ward off other users.
Selfies are never as flattering as you think they are.
There are, of course, other potential causes for your lack of likes. Although CMB has a pretty large user base, most of those users are localized to the most densely populated areas of the United States, with a fair amount of users active in Europe. Anyone outside those areas may have a tough time getting likes, regardless of how well their profile is constructed.
Not receiving any likes (or rather, very few) can render all of the premium features you have paid entirely null and void. Fortunately, with just a few changes to your profile, you can quickly begin to receive more replies and likes than you ever had before.
Coffee Meets Bagel is very generous with the amount of space it gives users to fill out their bios. There are a variety of different free-form fields, each with a character limit of 276, in addition to the basic information fields (such as height, weight, employer, etc.) You also have the option of including up to two prompts, each with a 280 character limit, which can give potential matches a much better idea of you at first glance. Unfortunately, many users squander that space with useless information, or worse, no information at all.
If your bio reads more like a blurb than an actual biography, you should get rid of it and start over. List everything you can about yourself, but keep it surface-level and lighthearted. Include your hobbies, your profession, your passions, your goals, and concisely structure them to allow for easy reading.
This is one part of a Coffee Meets Bagel profile that is comprehensive and short, and sweet.
Avoid being too personal. While listing your goals and what you want out of life is perfectly fine, you should not be broadcasting your deepest secrets to the world. Additionally, although CMB gives you plenty of space to write your bio, try not to be overly verbose. The aim is to balance comprehensiveness with brevity.
This bio above does a good job of letting matches know about his personality and interests. However, it’s a bit bland and could definitely use a bit more humor in my opinion to stand out.
The pictures you choose to display on your profile are crucial when it comes to first impressions. Remember that the goal is to give people a solid idea of who you are without speaking to them. That means that your photos need to properly reflect your personality in tandem with your bio in order to draw other users in. Fortunately, you are given ample space to do so – you can display up to 9 different photos on your profile.
To this end, you should remove any selfies on your profile. Selfies are easily one of the worst things you can include on a dating profile due to how unflattering they are and how shallow they make you look.
Try to include as many photos of you smiling as possible.
This rule also applies to topless pictures. While it may seem like an easy way to attract people, topless photos are – in fact – more likely to push people away, again due to how shallow they make you seem.
We suggest including photos of you taken by other people, showing you engaging in activities you enjoy. The photos should contain natural lighting as much as possible, and be sure to include at least one full-length picture of yourself. Remember to smile as well, and avoid group pictures that can confuse other users.
Online dating is definitely a challenge that can be tackled and overcome so long as you keep in mind everything that we have laid out in this post (along with a few of our others).
If you would like some help writing your online dating profile, feel free to contact us; we help female users as well. We also provide text message feedback that will let you know how well you are doing in conversation and what you may need to work on.