The Best Hinge Conversation Starters (For Guys and Girls)

One of the unique features of Hinge is the way they offer two different methods for users to spark a conversation. You can choose the best hinge conversation starters by commenting on someone’s profile when liking his or her profile photo, or you can say something once you find a match.

In this post, I am going to offer some valuable tips to write the best Hinge openers to initiate a conversation with someone after matching on the dating app. Let’s first talk about some tips and tricks you can begin using today to start an amazing conversation with your match.

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How to Start a Hinge Conversation?

How to Start a Hinge Conversation?


Starting a conversation with a girl, vs starting a conversation with a guy takes separate skill and knowledge. Girls and guys are different. Who knew? This means you need to tailor your conversation starter just a bit in order to get the best results.

When it comes to picking the best Hinge conversation starters for both men and women, there are some things to remember.

Research reveals that men have shorter attention spans. Keep it short and sweet. That means you can’t send a long or wordy first message. The shorter it is, the more chances you have of receiving a meaningful reply.

On the flip side, women love talking about their interests, hobbies, and past experiences. Your first message can be more effective if you ask about their passions and interests. Use their profile to your advantage – scan for any photos of them hiking, painting, or playing an instrument.

Never ask a girl about her ex-boyfriend or partners. This can come across as invasive and may give immediate red flags. She will tell you about it when she knows you better and is comfortable sharing her secrets.

Learn the top Hinge Do’s and Don’ts for more dating success 

Hinge Conversation Starters with a Girl

Hinge Conversation Starters with a Girl


As soon as you like a girl, you can comment either specifically on a profile prompt or her picture. Not sure what to say before you match? Find some great examples, here.  She can then leave a comment on your profile or respond to you by inviting you to chat.

Naturally, that means you also have to ensure that your Hinge profile is up to mark. You want to stand out and be prepared when the time comes.

Include photos or videos of yourself. Stay away from selfies, though. 1-2 full-body shots are recommended so users can see the full picture of what you look like. In fact, girls are far more receptive to photos shot by someone else, rather than photos you took of yourself. 

Keep it intriguing. A full profile of only selfies is boring and doesn’t spark her interest.

 You can find some great ideas to create an amazing Hinge profile through this post.

Let’s check out some of the most popular Hinge conversation starters when messaging a girl:

Through Her Pictures

In some cases, a girl’s profile does not have too much information. This doesn’t mean you’re getting catfished – maybe she is a more private person. All this means is you need to work a little bit harder to snag her attention.

If you don’t find anything worthwhile to talk about from her profile, check out her pictures to figure out what to say.

Although pictures are not as obvious as the Hinge prompts, they can give you a fair idea of the preferences and interests of your match. You can find more Hinge conversation starters from my post to get more replies.

Here are some examples of the best Hinge icebreakers:

  • Nice cat! What breed is it?
  • I love Japanese food too! Whats your favorite dish?
  • That guitar looks awesome. How often do you play?
  • Looks like a great day in the sun! Whats your favorite outdoor activity?
  • You love hiking? That’s pretty cool to know. Where is your favorite hiking trail?

Get Back to Her

If you are lucky enough to receive a message first, the way you send your reply can make or break the future of your conversation. No pressure.

Let’s suppose she already commented on your bio or pictures, and the ball is now in your court. Be courteous and continue to lead the conversation. Try not to keep talking about yourself too long, and guide the conversation over to her or things you may have in common.

Here are some examples:

  • Yes, I play in a band. Would you want to come to my next performance?
  • I used to be in the army, but now I’m an entrepreneur. What kind of work do you do?
  • Yeah, I was at the beach last Friday. What was the most happening part of your week?

Here are some examples of the best Hinge icebreakers:

  • Nice cat! What breed is it?
  • I love Japanese food too! What’s your favorite dish?
  • That guitar looks awesome. How often do you play?
  • Looks like a great day in the sun! What’s your favorite outdoor activity?
  • You love hiking? That’s pretty cool to know. Where is your favorite hiking trail?

Show a Connection

A great way to capture the attention of your online crush is to create a spark or connection. Making a connection automatically creates a more personable conversation.  How do you do that? It’s not as difficult as it looks.

For example, if she’s wearing a Green Bay sweatshirt in her profile picture, comment on how you love the Packers. You may just find you have more in common than you think!

If the girl reminds you of a celebrity or someone famous, don’t hesitate to say that in your first message.

Here are some of the best Hinge pickup lines:

  • Hey! I love that Jennifer Lawrence haircut on you.
  • God, you look so much like Taylor Swift.

Conversation starters like these make the connection more interesting and personal.

Show Interest in their Interests

Another great way to brainstorm an effective conversation starter is to show interest in your match’s hobbies and interests. We all love talking about what we love doing the most. For example, if you see pictures of her in a bathing suit or playing some sport, here are some ways to start a conversation.

  • If you could be a professional athlete in any sport and excel at it… which would you choose?
  • Would you rather go for a run in the middle of July or the middle of December?
  • Do you enjoy swimming indoors or outdoors more?

Another example would be if she shows her four-legged friend in her profile. Show interest in her fur baby, even if you don’t have one yourself. Ask questions that show a genuine curiosity as well as a shared love for animals.

  • You have the cutest dog I’ve ever seen… What breed is she?
  • I think my cat and your cat should have a playdate sometime, what do you say?

Hinge Conversation Starters with a Guy

Hinge Conversation Starters with a Guy


For the ladies, don’t be shy to come up with unique dating app openers if you see a guy you like. They’ve probably received far too many messages that day, so you want to stand out and keep them intrigued. 

The whole point is to find a date with whom you can have fun and share some secrets along the way. You can do this with simple, fun conversation starters that still manage to get some personal information out.

Here are some valuable tips for the best Hinge conversation starters when messaging a guy:

Talk about their Work

Most guys have a long list of interests, goals, and ambitions. Go through their profile and look for things you can talk about. For example, if the guy you are about to message seems to love his job, base your first message around that.

For example:

  • How did you get into digital marketing? What kind of designs do you make?
  • Being a firefighter must be so amazing and tough at the same time. What’s the best and worst part of the job?
  • My brother is a doctor too. What is your specialty?

Praise their Art

It’s not uncommon to find hundreds of guys that are into arts and crafts, sculpting, and other popular types of artwork. If you come across any such unique piece of art, praise them for their efforts. You don’t have to try too hard to flatter your crush. A little attention goes a long way. Just let them know how amazing you think their skills are, and you open a new door for conversations. Maybe they’ll paint you someday!

For example:

  • What a cool sculpture. I wish I had that kind of talent! What’s next on your agenda?
  • Did you paint that wall yourself? How long did it take you to finish?

Be Curious

Be curious, but don’t be too curious, or this tip can backfire in the worst possible ways. It’s a fine line, but once you learn to walk it you unlock all the secrets to online conversations. The key is to not play detective but to take interest and ask questions pertaining to their pictures or bio.

This can be done by asking questions that are seemingly surface level, without digging too deep into their childhood or political beliefs.

For instance, if you see a picture of a guy sunbathing in Hawaii, tell them about your amazing Hawaii vacation. If your crush has pictures of him horse-riding, rafting, or working out, base your questions on these interests.

For example:

  • I’m sure you had loads of fun on your skiing trip. How long have you been a skier?
  • What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?
  • What would you do if you won the lottery but only had a week to spend the money?
  • Looks like you love water sports just like me. What haven’t you tried?
  • What a beautiful horse that is! How often do you ride?
  • Where’s that hiking spot? The scenery looks beautiful.

While these questions can seem simple enough, you really can get to know quite a bit from their response! Keep the questions open-ended to avoid any simple “yes” or “no” answers.

Open-Ended Questions:

These are questions that can’t (usually) be answered with a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’. They allow the other person to have free reign over where the conversation goes. Examples:

  • “What did you do this weekend?”
  • “What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on?”
  • “What do you like the most about your job?”

Close-Ended Questions:

These types of questions won’t get you very far. They can be answered by a simple ‘yes’ or ‘no’, or a limited set of options – not leaving much room for discussion. Examples:

  • “Do you have any pets?”
  • “What year were you born?”
  • “Do you like sushi?”

If you’re having trouble getting replies, find out why guys match but not message here.

Don’t ask Filler Questions

Many times, a conversation does not run as smoothly as you like. But do you ever wonder why? You may be asking too many filler questions that add no meaning to the conversation. While they might seem like a safe bet at the moment, they don’t propel the conversation forward or keep your match coming back for more.

Here is a series of meaningless questions that you may be guilty of asking:

  • How’s it going?
  • How are you?
  • How was your day?
  • Are you looking for someone here?

Such questions will only make you feel like a complete idiot when your match fails to reply. These types of questions are boring and don’t add any value. Avoid asking these questions because nobody would want to communicate with someone who can’t think of anything creative to say.

Never Say ‘Hello’

While the most obvious way to greet someone is ‘Hi’, ‘Hey’ or ‘Hello,’ it is the laziest of all conversation starters. Yes, this works in an email, or on the subway, but not on a dating app. 

Not only is it impersonal but also terribly boring. Don’t expect any enthusiastic responses to this mundane old message.

It’s also a sign that you can’t think of anything creative or better to say. Your match will automatically assume that you have no personality. You don’t want that to happen, so avoid sending a ‘hello’ message unless it is followed by something interesting.

If you can’t think of anything fun to say now, why would they want to sit through a dinner date with you? Awkward silence isn’t flattering on anyone…

Instead, send something like this:

  • “I see you love sailing. That makes the two of us because I grew up on a boat.”
  • “Ah! Finally, I found someone who loves Blind Melon.”

Compliment Wisely

Don’t focus on the physical aspects only. For many girls, this is an immediate turn-off. While girls love to be complimented, if it’s your very first interaction it may come off as over the top.

Many women don’t want to be known just for their bodies and the quickest way to establish that is by an immediate compliment on their looks. 

If you find something worthwhile in someone’s profile or bio that doesn’t involve their appearance, don’t forget to praise that.

For example:

  • Wow, I’m happy to see you’re such a terrific diver.
  • You’ve accomplished so much at such a young age. Kudos!
  • The Best Hinge Conversation Starters (For Guys and Girls) – Addition

How do you keep a Hinge Conversation Going?

How do you keep a Hinge Conversation Going?


Without any enthusiasm, effort, and energy, keeping a conversation alive on Hinge is next to impossible. No one wants to feel like they’re talking to a brick wall. Most people make one or two attempts to keep a conversation alive before moving on to the next match.

Your match won’t show any enthusiasm or excitement if you don’t know how to keep the flow going. A little bit of creativity and some help will turn a boring and cliché conversation into an exciting exchange of ideas and opinions.

Most people commit the mistake of treating Hinge conversations like interviews. For example, if you notice some of these boring Hinge conversations, they would appear to be Zoom job interviews.

Here are some ‘bad’ examples:

How do you keep a Hinge Conversation Going?

Although this conversation had potential, it didn’t go anywhere. Instead of replying with “nothing much really”, he could have responded with his own experiences with dogs or pets.

If he fails this terribly at keeping up a conversation over the phone, imagine the in-person struggle. Yikes!

How do you keep a Hinge Conversation Going?

This conversation is just cringe-worthy. You can see the first user making an attempt at conversation, while the second user misses the boat completely. How is anyone supposed to reply to that? While there is an effort being given on one end, the second user barely lifts a finger to keep the conversation afloat.

Now that’s painfully boring. All work and no play make this conversation really dull.

The trick is to keep it cool, simple, and straightforward.

The best conversations allow both parties to give their opinions without the fear of being judged.

The more genuine you are, the quicker the connection will be.

Avoid being creepy like this fellow:

How do you keep a Hinge Conversation Going?

You never know what happened in the past. Maybe they were cheated on and it took them years to overcome. Or, maybe their partner passed away. No matter what. NEVER bring up past relationships right away!

In my opinion, if you don’t sense any chances of igniting a spark within the first few days of exchanging messages on a dating app, it’s best to move on. That’s because there’s plenty of fish in the sea. You will eventually find someone with whom you can hold an interesting conversation.

What Are Some Good Questions to Ask on Hinge?

I’ve observed that the best dating app conversations include a bit of vulnerability, a little self-deprecation, and a willingness to share cringe-worthy personal experiences.

Let’s take a look at some of the most popular questions to ask on Hinge for kick-starting a convo.

  • What’s your go-to karaoke song?

Get to know about her/his favorite type of music.

  • What’s your worst roommate story?

Gives you a little insight into their past experiences and I mean, anyone who has had a roommate has one of these.

  • Who was your childhood crush?

That will give you a hint about the kind of movies and celebrities he/she is into.

  • Were you ever caught because of a fake ID?

That’s a subtle way of asking someone if their criminal record is clear. It’s also fun to get to know someone’s dark side.

  • What did you want to be when you grew up?

That’s a great ice breaker to get your match talking about his/her dreams and ambitions.

  • How did your parents meet?

It’s another polite way to inquire about your match’s family and know about their current marital status.

  • Who would you donate a kidney for?

That is if they would donate their kidney at all!

  • What’s the best way to your heart?

This can quickly give you a leg up as they tell you what matters most to them.

  • What is the worst compliment you’ve ever received on this app?

Not only can this lead to a funny conversation, but you’ll also know exactly what not to say.

  • What is your biggest pet peeve?

Whether it’s slow drivers, someone chewing with their mouth open, or wet socks, everyone has something that bothers them unlike anything else. This way, you’ll know what to steer clear of on your first date!

  • How would you describe yourself in 3 emojis?

First off, who doesn’t love emojis? Secondly, this can be a nice change of pace for those who have answered multiple messages already that day. A few emojis that are well received on dating apps are: 😍 🙈😈😋

  • What is one conspiracy theory you 100% believe?

Conspiracy theories are fun to talk about and everyone has at least one they’re convinced is true. For example:

  • 9/11 was an undercover job
  • Aliens are already on Earth
  • The Illuminati runs the music industry
  • Area 51 holds the cure for cancer

Let’s take a look at this example.

What Are Some Good Questions to Ask on Hinge?

While they are both asking and answering questions, which is good, this conversation lacks depth. Their match seems to be asking random questions that are completely unrelated. First, they ask about the user’s favorite drink and then their comic book character.

It would have been better if they followed up with a “why” question to find out why she likes cranberry vodka. Is it the taste? texture? Does she know how to make any drinks? By digging deeper, this allows you to have better quality conversations. 

What Do I Say to Start a Conversation on Hinge?

What Do I Say to Start a Conversation on Hinge?


The best way to initiate a conversation on Hinge is to comment on your match’s prompt answers. These little tidbits of information can either be super informative or have a humorous twist. You can also give a compliment but avoid being too cheesy or cocky. Many times, wrong compliments can take an ugly turn, and you end up looking like a complete fool. If you do decide to take the compliment route, avoid only talking about her physical appearance. She crafted her profile specifically for a reason – use that to your advantage!

While podcasts, TV, Netflix, movies, and local news can help you start a conversation, they do little to keep the conversation going. National or global world events are a better option if you’re someone who enjoys keeping up on current events. However, you must have something in common with your match to hold an exciting conversation. Find common ground, such as mutual hobbies or interests. Above all, be confident and authentic. Nobody wants to date someone who is indecisive, ambivalent or takes too long to reply.

Another way to keep the conversation going is to pick up something from the bio of a potential match. For example:

What Do I Say to Start a Conversation on Hinge?

Or this one:

What Do I Say to Start a Conversation on Hinge?

Now that was smooth!

Good Hinge Conversation Topics

Anything a Hinge user shares in his/her bio is fair game for initiating a discussion or conversation. But, avoid commenting on someone on their looks only, especially if you are messaging a girl. Most girls on dating apps easily get attracted to guys who praise their accomplishments in life rather than their smile or beach body.

Remember, you can always compliment how beautiful she is when you take her out for dinner.

Here are some nice ways to compliment someone for starting the conversation.

Good Hinge Conversation Topics

This is a great example to show you can compliment someone without bringing up their looks.

Final Thoughts

As you can see, coming up with a unique opener isn’t too difficult if you know what to look out for. If you are still struggling to come up with the best Hinge conversation starters, I can help. As a professional dating profile writer, I have extensive experience in writing the best Hinge opening lines for numerous clients. Check out my personalized dating app writing services to start getting more matches today!

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