He Only Texts Me When He Wants To (Is He Interested?)

Ladies, guys can be a real mystery sometimes. One moment we will be texting you nonstop and the next we will be distant.

You might be wondering, he is still interested? Did you scare him off? Or is he playing hard to get?

Let’s go through this guide and find out!

He Only Texts Me When He Wants To – Is He Interested?

Men can be hard to understand at times, especially when they stop texting you as often. Here are some common reasons why he may be texting you less.

He May Be Losing Interest In You

If your guy doesn’t seem to be flirting with you as much as he used to, there’s a chance he’s putting you in the friendzone. Not only will this be easy to tell, but it can happen quickly. His responses will be shorter, and he may be agitated if you message him too much. Here are some good examples that might show he’s losing interest in you:

• His messages show less emotion and seem rather bland.
• All signs of flirting are gone.
• His messages are shorter.
• He doesn’t take the time to message you as much as he used to.

You can tell from this conversation above that only one person is trying to have a conversation. The other person is only responding with one-word answers.

Is He Suddenly Preoccupied With Somebody Else?

You may be wondering if he really likes you or is into someone else. After all, you don’t be wasting your time on someone who doesn’t feel the same way. Here are some things you can do to get a better idea of how his status.

• Check his social media. Is he constantly posting pictures with another person?
• If you know his friends, you can ask them about his status.
• If you see him in class or school, see if he is constantly around somebody; especially if there’s PDA involved.

Give Him Some Space

Sometimes, men need time to sort things out. It’s possible he’s trying to figure out how he feels about you. If this is the case, give him some time to figure things out. Make sure to give him his space and try not to bombard him with messages. Other things that can help include:

• Take your time to respond and message him with engaging texts.
• Keep your messages shorter.
• Don’t be “too open” with your feelings and leave some mystery.

You can tell from the conversation above that Carl is clearly interested and is wondering if she is OK. She keeps her replies short but lets him know how she is feeling and that it’s not his fault.

Try To Figure Out How He Feels

Figuring out how he feels is important. You need to see where he is at both mentally and emotionally. Ask him how his day is going and if everything is OK. Ask him how his work is going and if he wants to talk about anything.

If you want to be more direct, you can always ask him how he feels about you. Although this can be scary, you should get a clear answer and it will save you time in the long run. If he likes you, great! If not, you can move on to someone else and stop worrying about how he feels about you.

He’s Being Distant But Says Nothing Is Wrong

You’ve noticed that he’s been acting distant and isn’t’ talking to you as much. However, when you ask him, he says nothing is wrong. So, what do you do? Here are some tips you can follow:

Try To Keep Your Mind Off Him

A great way to help you get through this situation is to keep busy. Some things you can do include:

• Staying active, such as by working out. This is a great stress reliever.
• Keeping your mind stimulated by reading, writing, drawing. This helps to keep your mind focused on other things.
• Spending time with family and friends. That’s exactly what this person does in the conversation below.

What If He Apologized For Being Distant

If he’s apologized for his behavior, that’s a good sign. It shows that cares about your feelings and is probably trying to process his feelings. As he works out his emotions, here are a few things you can do to make things easier between you two:

Be Patient With Him

He’s going to need some time to sort himself out and understand his feelings. Be patient with him and realize it might take some time. Don’t be spiteful or rude.  Let him know you’ll be there for him if he needs to talk.

Keep Being His friend

While you’re being patient with him, be sure to let him know that you’re still his friend. He’s going to need you emotionally, and he is going to appreciate knowing that you two can still talk. You may have to wait to see how he feels about you but if he’s truly a great guy, he will be worth the wait.

Pay attention to his actions

Besides being distant, he may be feeling shy about his feelings. If this is the case, this may explain why he’s acting distant. Is being more quiet than usual? Do you catch him looking at you and then looking away? Does he act nervous or fidgety? These are all indicators that someone is feeling shy or nervous.

Figure Out What He Wants

There’s a reason why he is being distant. Maybe he does like you but doesn’t want to admit it. Or perhaps he’s jealous that you’re into another guy. If you’re both on good terms, ask him what’s wrong and what he wants. Again, this is more direct but can provide a lot of insight into how he feels about you.

Tell Him How You Feel

The best way to see how he feels is to do it first. Yes, I know this isn’t going to be easy. However, it can also be liberating. Tell him how you feel if you and see how he reacts. You may be pleasantly surprised.

As you can see from the conversation below, this is what Jane is planning to do with the guy she secretly likes.

Conclusion

When it comes down to it, relationships are never easy. Knowing whether someone is into you or not, can be confusing. Hopefully, this post has provided you with some tips you can keep in mind if you’re going through this situation now.

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