Dating is a fun time, but it can be extremely awkward when it is not going well. If you have a date who’s not into you, then it can be difficult. This can happen for a variety of reasons.
Sometimes, it is because of social anxiety. Sometimes, it is because of how you act. Sometimes, it is because of your personality. It can all be hard to figure out.
Which leads to a simple question: what are some of the signs that she doesn’t want to hang out for you?
Signs she doesn’t want to hang out with you:
1. She’s not texting you first
Texting is an easy way to get in touch, but if you notice your texts are never reciprocated or that she always has excuses when you ask her to hang out, it might be time to start worrying about why she’s not responding.
2. She’s not replying to your messages
Some people’s lack of response to your messages can be interpreted as a sign that they don’t want to hang out. They could be busy with their work or just not interested in you. Either way, here are four signs that she doesn’t want to hang out with you:
- She’s taking a long time to reply.
- She’s making up excuses not to hang out with you.
- You get ghosted.
- She cancels plans more than once
This example outlines how a guy asked a girl if they wanted to hang out, and she made up an excuse for not doing so (even though it might be legit). However, it can still be frustrating when you make the effort to ask someone out, but they say no. If this happens to you, don’t take it personally. It’s best to move on and find someone who is interested in you and worth your time. You deserve better!
3. She’s not answering your calls
She’s not answering your phone call. She hasn’t texted you back in a while. These are warning signs she doesn’t want to hang out with you anymore and it might be time to give her some space. You’ve been friends for a few months now and they seemed like she was into you, but the signs are showing that she wants to end things.
4. She’s not responding to your messages in a timely manner
Sometimes it feels like women are impossible to read. They say they want to hang out but won’t respond to your texts asking what they want to do, or when. You feel like you’ve been trying your best at being non-clingy, but it’s getting hard not to take the lack of response as a sign that she doesn’t want to see you again. This is a common misconception, and here are 3 reasons why she might not be responding.
- She might be too shy to text back.
- She’s just busy.
- She might be feeling unsure about you.
5. You’re always the one asking to hang out
You know you’re always the one begging to hang out, but it might be time to ask yourself if she doesn’t want to see you. If she’s been ignoring you, or she’s been making excuses for not wanting to see you, this is a red flag. The bottom line is, she might be avoiding you. But how do you know if she’s doing that intentionally?
If you suspect she’s intentionally not responding to you, you can’t do anything about her behavior, but you can do something about your own. You can’t force her to like you. But you can make a point to yourself to be more interesting. You can also approach it from another angle. If you have been ignoring her, or if you have been making excuses for not seeing her, you can do something to make it up to her. You can schedule a date or even a coffee date. You can take the initiative and show her that she’s important to you.
When you should stop asking her to hang out
One of the most common questions I get asked is, “When should I stop asking her to hang out?” It’s a question I’m sure all men have pondered at one point or another. The answer to this question is quite simple: if she doesn’t want to hang out, don’t keep asking. Yet there are certain warning signs that may indicate she’s not interested in hanging out anymore. Here are a few of them:
- She doesn’t answer your texts.
- She doesn’t respond to your calls.
- She doesn’t show up to the dates you set up.
- She doesn’t text you.
- She doesn’t reply to your emails.
In the example above you can see this poor guy asking the girl if she wants to get food. She gives him one-word answers and doesn’t explain why she is busy. In this scenario, it might seem obvious that the girl isn’t interested, and the guy should move on, but sometimes when you’re interested in someone it’s not that easy.
He also should have been more direct and clear with his invite. Instead of saying “let me know“, he should have said “Are you free on Friday after class? I know this cool bar we can check out.”
What you should do if she doesn’t want to hang out
Having a girl say “no” to hanging out with you can be really demoralizing. It’s also hard to understand why she doesn’t want to hang out with you, but this is what you should do if it ever happens.
1. Don’t keep texting her if you don’t get an answer.
It’s understandable that you’d want to keep trying to get her to hang out, but in the long run, she’s not going to want to. She’s probably just trying to get you to stop texting her. If you’re texting her back and forth for hours and she’s not answering your texts, it’s not a good sign that she wants to hang out.
2. Ask her if she’s okay.
If she doesn’t reply to your text, you may want to ask her if she’s okay. She may want to hang out, but she’s just a little bit upset. If she’s okay, then you can turn your attention back to other things.
3. If she doesn’t respond, don’t text her over, and over. Don’t be that guy.
It’s okay to be upset, but don’t take it personally. It’s part of the dating process. You shouldn’t be texting her repeatedly if she doesn’t respond. It’s just annoying. I’m not saying you should stop texting her, but if she doesn’t respond to your texts, don’t be a jerk about it.
Guys! Don’t be like Bob here.
If you’ve been trying but the girl, you’re interested in just isn’t responding, I have something that may help. My text message feedback service will teach you the perfect first message to send to get her to reply.
4. If she doesn’t respond after a day, send her a text asking how she’s going.
If she’s still not responding to your messages, you could either ask her if she’s okay or just go hang out with someone else. Don’t ghost her. This is a big one, ghosting is when you text her and then stop texting her, but if she doesn’t respond to your texts, guys, as we mentioned earlier, don’t be a jerk about it.
To learn more about ghosting, check out our article.
Check out this example of a girl getting spammed by texts. The guy should have been patient and waited for her reply, but he was kind of a jerk. He should have opened with something other than “hi” or “hello”. It’s important to give people something to work with when you want them to text back.
If you’re just not getting the response you want from the girl, you’re interested in, you may be trying too hard. In fact, it could be that you’re making things worse for yourself like the example above. You might think you’re posting all the right messages, but you’re still not getting the response you want. Check out some of my tips on conversation starters
5. If she replies, talk to her.
If she says she’s fine, don’t worry about it. If she’s crying or upset, that’s a different story. Go ahead and ask her what’s wrong, be sympathetic but don’t try to ‘rescue’ her. She probably doesn’t want you to take responsibility for a problem that is ultimately hers. Tell you are there if she needs to talk.
So, what do you do now?
The first time someone says they don’t want to hang out with you, it’s always a wake-up call. If she’s not responding to you, it’s best for you to move on from her. Keep trying until you find a girl that’s interested in you.
In conclusion, there are many signs that she is not interested or just doesn’t want to hang out. To find out if she wants to hang out, there are a few ways you can check:
- If she responds to your text messages quickly and checks her phone frequently, it’s a good sign.
- If she suggests hanging out, it’s a good sign.
- If she makes other plans with you, it’s a good sign.
- If she always cancels plans last minute and never reschedules them, it might be time to move on.
- If there is a noticeable gap in the conversations when chatting with her, this could mean that she is feeling emotionally detached.
It’s important that you’re aware of these signs and don’t take it personally if she doesn’t want to hang out with you. Don’t get discouraged! There are plenty of other girls out there, and it’s just a matter of finding the right one for you. If you need some assistance, we can help you with the process of writing your dating profile. You’ll be able to stand out from the crowd, get the right message out to the right people, and get the results you’re looking for.