Chances are that you have already heard of OkCupid – it is, after all, still one of the biggest online dating and networking sites to this day.
Before venturing in, though, you may want to have a few tips and tricks for you to fall back on in case the going gets tough. This is online dating after all, and the chances of success are ever-fluctuating.
In this post, we are going to detail a number of OkCupid exploits – “hacks,” if you will – as well as some general tips and tricks. They are all fairly simple to implement, and should greatly increase your chances of finding love or friendship.
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OkCupid was founded by Harvard mathematics majors back in 2004, so it comes as no surprise that the logic and algorithms that make up the site’s matching system are almost as complex as string theory. Despite this, however, there are a few holes in the system which have yet to be patched up, and which can be exploited to great effect. Something as easy as adding a period to your bio, adding better photos, or logging on every Sunday night can help you find great success.
Here are some of the best OkCupid hacks.
It may seem tedious to make changes and additions to your profile on a daily basis, but doing so actually improves your chances of finding a match. When OkCupid’s algorithms detect a change in a user’s profile – whether it be their bio or their answers – the site promotes that profile, displaying them to hundreds of users within their search parameters. The changes that you make do not have to be sweeping, and, in fact, can be as small as adding something like a period, a comma, or a hyphen.
OkCupid will only promote your profile once per day, so get into the habit of making quick adjustments daily to increase your visibility to other users and therefore, your chances of success.
You do not actually have to add anything. In the above example, you can easily substitute the hyphens with actual bullet points and OkCupid’s algorithms will detect the changes and promote your profile.
It can be taxing when you find yourself having to cater to each and every one of your matches with an individualized message to grab their attention. Still, your first message is arguably the most important, and can quickly make or break a potential relationship.
Instead of going through the motions of coming up with a unique opening line for each and every one of your matches, try to think of one that you really like which is fairly general and all-encompassing. You will save yourself a lot of effort, and you will not waste any time in making a move with a new match.
Above is an example of a generalized message that can easily be sent to plenty of people without the need for personalization. Compared to individualized messages which take plenty of time to come up with, these copy-and-paste texts have a 75% success rate, with a greater effort-to-output ratio, according to Christian Rudder, the author of Dataclysms: Who We Are When We Think No One’s Looking. To further increase your chances of success, alter just a few things in the message to make it unique and relevant to your match profile.
OkCupid is very popular, with millions of users worldwide. Even so, you are unlikely to encounter even a fraction of that user base, at least during the week.
The site receives the most online traffic during the later hours of Sunday evening. Users become much more active and are therefore much more likely to engage with your profile. You should definitely capitalize on this timeframe – 7 pm to midnight to be exact. All you need to do is stay logged in, even if you have other things to do, and watch the views climb.
Ironically, the main goal of online dating is to get offline as quickly as possible. However, there is a tendency among users to take things slow with their potential matches. While this approach would certainly work in the real world, it can be detrimental to your online dating prospects – remember that your matches are speaking to other people too.
Rather than beat around the proverbial bush by flirting back and forth with your matches, ask them out as soon as the ice has been broken, usually within the first 3 days of matching. You should be able to get to know them well enough to ask them out, and maybe even have a bit of banter going as well.
Do not be afraid to suggest when and where you should meet – if they cannot accommodate your schedule, ask them for alternatives. Get to know their schedule as well, and suggest some fun activities that the two of you can do together – picnics, art galleries, and bars are safe bets that will keep both of you engaged on the date. So long as you make that first move – and make it quickly – you will find online dating is not as difficult as it seems.
All you need is a bit of confidence and you will see positive results. If you find yourself struggling to even get a conversation going, you can find out how to talk to people on OkCupid here.
OkCupid, and online dating in general, can be brutal to the uninitiated expecting to find plenty of matches in no time at all. The only way to match with someone on OkCupid is to like their profile, and they like yours. The site will always notify you when this occurs.
If someone likes your profile first, when you like them you will receive a pop-up that says that the feeling is mutual. Alternatively, if you like their profile first, you will receive a notification if and when they like yours.
Unfortunately, the only way to see the full list of people who like you requires a premium subscription, which can be very pricey.
Luckily, OkCupid will shuffle the profiles of people who like you towards the top of the stack, meaning that you are more likely to engage with them and find a match much quicker. This also applies to people that you like; your profile will be shuffled to the top of their stack, where they should take notice.
A boost on OkCupid is pretty much exactly what it sounds like. It promotes your profile, showing it at the top of special blend searches, quick match, and in everyone’s general activity feeds. What this means is that your profile reaches a larger amount of people in a shorter amount of time.
An example of a boosted profile – the number goes up exponentially. The problem is that these boosts typically only last 15 minutes (unless your profile fails to reach at least 1000 different users, at which point the period is extended). Therefore it may be fruitless to boost at random intervals when the chances of engagement are questionable or low.
So what is the best time to boost on OkCupid?
As we have already mentioned, Sunday evenings are typically the site’s busiest times, with more log-ins than any other day of the week. Activating a boost at around 9 pm on Sunday is a sure-fire way to increase engagement and receive plenty of views.
If you feel that you cannot wait until Sunday, you can also activate your boosts early in the morning at around 9 am, or in the afternoon on a weekday after 5 pm. During the early hours of the morning and midday, OkCupid activity tends to drop, so avoid these periods at all costs.
Of course, more exposure means nothing without a great profile to match, so make sure that your profile is up to snuff before activating a boost.
You will only be able to find dates on OkCupid if you already have matches, so be sure to brush up on everything we have already discussed before moving on.
Unfortunately, there is no guaranteed method of securing a date. The best way to find one is to simply ask your matches out but to really ensure that people like you enough to accept, you should make sure that your profile is varied and robust – and above all, honest.
Do not be afraid to provide information in your bio. While there is such a thing as “less is more,” people online have short attention spans and may not have the time to get to know you naturally over time. Fill out your bio with as much information about yourself as possible, while leaving some things up to the imagination, and be sure to complete some of OkCupid’s diverse array of personality prompts. This is the perfect space to mention your hobbies and interests, which will hopefully attract like-minded people. Do not be scared to put yourself out there.
Tell the world about yourself – where you were born, what you do for a living, what you enjoy, etc. Lastly, do not be afraid to initiate the conversation. Talking to strangers can be daunting, but once you have gotten past that initial fear, things become much easier.
Online dating can be difficult, but it does not have to be. With these hacks, tips, and suggestions, you should find plenty of success in no time at all.
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